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Thursday, June 25, 2009

LIFE'S GOOD

A few years ago, my friend and I said that we will be adventurous and try new things before we reach the age of THREE-OH. I asked her what's on her list. She told me. I can't share it though coz what's on her list were a lot of adult stuff, hahahaha! Just imagine wild and crazy, you know what I mean. Mine could have looked something similar to hers, or maybe not, I'll just leave it all to your imagination.

Bottom line is, today I reach my big THREE-OH. As I look back, I ask myself if I were able to do the things I want to do and planned to do. Were the string of choices I made in the past, led me to the path where I really wanted to be? Have the past years molded me to the person that I want and have become today? What is my state, where am I really?

Days before this day came, I was downplaying everything. I did not want to make a big fuss out of it because I don't want to be disappointed with myself and how I would feel when the day finally comes. I still am not making a big fuss about it right now but one thing I know for sure, I am strangely happy. Don't get me wrong, I'm not THAT jaded YET! It's just that a lot of things has happened to me in the past years which made me change a lot of my views in life. By the time I reach this age, there were times I have become cynical, and mostly careful with the people I deal with. The carefree and ever jovial Cynch would sometimes disappear somewhere and gear up for a tougher battle that is out there. Today I found the answer... maybe because being 30 symbolizes some things to me and it has given me some invisible kind of power... I just feel that all the years that passed has been my synthesis, my sharpening, of what I am today. All the challenges, all the troubles, all the good and bad things, all the love and hate, all the smiles and tears, all the success and failures, all the silence and cheers, all the yes and no, all the waiting and achieving, has made me the woman that I am.

I am happy. I am exactly where I want to be, who I want to be, and what I want to be. I have stayed clear away from people who could hurt me, betray me, be disloyal to me, and just be downright cruel, mean and nasty. I have chosen to welcome all the love coming my way. And though I know somewhere along the way, I will once again meet people who could be more cruel or could hurt me even more, I know that I have the courage to survive them just like the way I have surpassed everything that went my way before.

I am getting old, I know, but I am happy about it. It gives me some sort of personal strength, the capacity to be independent, the one who is now being depended on, the one they call to, the one they ask for opinion. I am no expert, I am no over achiever. I just feel that my being 30 puts me in that place where you are not young anymore. Where people expect you take on bigger things, handle more serious matters and be a true blue grown up similar to how you look up to your parents when you were young.

The image of 30 to me is similar to the image of my parents when I first understood how old they were. Like when someone used to ask me how old my parents were and I would say they are 30 or 31, I used to think "That is really old." That was the image of what a grown up is to me. Like reaching that age seems to be a long long time for me. And now, I have reached it. I am officially old and I'm proud about it. I cannot be tossed around and be treated like a child anymore (well its not as if I have been treated like a child before today, but you know what I mean).

I know there are other things that I could have achieved at this age, but there are also some things that I have done which are results of not achieving yet the other things. I'm going in circles, wait. My point is, my life has been a series of give and take. Of choices, and of being happy about those choices. Of sacrifices, and not regretting any of it. Of letting go of some battles and knowing when to move on. Of patience (lots of it), and being thankful for what has been given. Of fighting back the tears knowing it will hurt more if you let it fall. Of being strong knowing that weakness is not an option.

I know now have brave I have become. I know now the strength I have within. I know my capacity, how much I can take and how much more I am willing to take. I will be eternally grateful for all the important people surrounding me today. For their unconditional love, endless support, immense understanding. God has been so good to me and I know His greater plans will continue to unfold.

This is me, at 30. I am exactly where I want to be. I feel good about it.

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Cynch @ 9:47 PM

Wednesday, June 10, 2009

FW06: The In Law Factor Foodie Quiz

This week's pop quiz at WifeSpeaks!

1. Kung ang mother in law mo ay isang dish or ulam, ano siya? Pwede mo rin sabihin kung bakit, pero kung ayaw mo, okay lang. ---> Hhmm may ulam bang tahimik? Tahimik kasi MIL ko eh, hehehe! Siguro para shang Sugpo - tough on the outside, soft on the inside --- NHUX!

2. Ano ang madalas ihandang pagkain kapag may party sa bahay ng in laws mo? Spaghetti, Shrimps, Crabs at Cake

3. Ano ang pinakamasarap na pagkain na nailuto ng in laws mo? Hhmmm... bake actually... cassava cake.

4. Anong pagkain ang nailuto mo na para sa in laws mo? WALA! Hehehe, hindi naman ako nagluluto eh.

5. Meron bang dish na itinuro sa iyo ang in laws mo, either traditional family meal or paborito ng iyong asawa? WALA rin. Si Hubby ang nagtuturo sakin madalas.

6. Mahalaga ba sa in laws mo na matuto kang magluto bago kayo nagpakasal ni Hubby? Not really, alam naman nila na Hubby can cook, so we can survive naman.

7. Anong eating habits ng in laws mo ang acquire mo na rin through the years? Eating by batch. They have a huge family kasi so if you want to eat at the dining table, you have to wait for your turn, otherwise, you can eat at the foyer. Hehehe!

8. Meron ka bang unforgettable kitchen moments with your in laws? Yeah, last Saturday lang, my MIL and I washed the dishes together, hehehe! My sis in law even took a photo of us. I'll post the pic when I get a copy. It's cute!

9. Binibigyan ka ba ng cooking tips ng in laws mo? Ano-ano ito? WALA rin!

10. Ano ang paboritong pagkain ng father in law mo? Oh, anything goes, but he loves seafood and lechon.

11. Mahilig ba sa desserts ang in laws mo? If yes, anong hilig nila? Naku very much. Cakes and ice cream all the time!

12. Pagdating naman sa inuman after meals, “Go” ba sila or “No”? GO!

13. Saan madalas mag-dine out for family dinners ang in laws mo? Usually sa house lang ni MIL kasi maraming kids so mahirap if dine out.

14. Mahilig ba sila sa exotic food? If yes, ano-ano ito? I'm not sure, parang hindi yata.

15. Lastly, masasabi mo bang bonding moments ang “food moments” mo with your in laws? Yes, this is where the usual kwentuhan happens kasi, so we get to bond during meal times. :)

Share your answers too and post it at WifeSpeaks!

HAPPY WEDNESDAY MGA MISIS!

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Cynch @ 9:15 AM

Monday, June 08, 2009

MemoirMonday06 at WIFESPEAKS: The IN LAW Factor

This week's topic is all about in-laws. This is a recent photo we took with the immediate Sapitula family (minus Dad coz he's in New Jersey, and Jude coz he's in LA).

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Cynch @ 8:59 AM

Friday, June 05, 2009

SPEAKOUTFRIDAY: Money Matter

This week's topic at WifeSpeaks is all about the money. For SpeakOut Friday, we talk about money and how it affects our marriage.

A few years back, a good friend of mine told me, "Pagawayan niyo na ang lahat, wag lang pera." He was going through a trial separation that time and I found out that one of the major reasons of the break up of their marriage was money. I got scared and vowed to myself that I will never allow money to be the cause of our arguments.

I have been married now for more than four years, and so far, I could not remember a single argument that was caused by money (maybe not being able to pay bills on time, but never really about the money itself). I don't know if it's a conscious effort between the two of us or maybe we are both aware of where we stand financially so there's really no need for us to argue. If he says we don't have money, then I know we really don't. I don't have to ask him why or question him where our money went. If he says we can't go there or we can't buy it yet, then I know I'd have to wait.

There's even long standing joke between me and Hubby every time I'd point something in the mall and he knows that I only WANT it but I don't really NEED it. He'd say "I'll buy that next month." And I'll say, "You just keep on saying next month, but you never do!", then he'll say "Because you'll forget it next month anyway!" Hahahaha! If he was the type who'd buy everything that his "bilmoko" wife points to, then we're probably bankrupt now.

I think the secret of having a healthy financial situation is to be open to each other about your real financial standing. Hubby and I go through this Excel file every now and then and check where we are in terms of our income and expenses. Recently, we made a major purchase and we discussed where to cut here and there to afford the recent item. We wanted to do another major one but realized that there's no way we can afford it yet, so there, no questions asked. By being open and discussing these money matters, we are able to avoid future arguments and prepare for plan B in case things go wrong.

I know there's really no perfect way in dealing with money issues and I know somewhere along the way, there will be major challenges and decisions to be made. I just hope that our years of practice in dealing with our finances, our communication lines, and most importantly, our love for each other, will see us through...

Care to share your own experiences? Join us at WifeSpeaks!

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Cynch @ 1:53 AM

Thursday, June 04, 2009

FABFINDS THURSDAY: The Money Matter

Let’s add a little twist to this Thursday’s FabFinds! I’ve lined up several random questions here that all relates to our topic for this week which is THE MONEY MATTER. (My answers in BLUE.)

Shopping Allowance…
(a) Hubby gives me on a monthly basis…
(b) I save up for my own.
(c) Non-existent.
(d) Depending on whatever’s left in the budget.
Others: _________________________

The bulk of my shopping money or “extra cash” goes to…
(a) Bags
(b) Shoes
(c) Clothes
(d) Jewelry
(e) Books
(f) Gadgets
(g) Make-Up
(h) All of the Above
Others: _________

The one kikay item that I can never live without, even if it’s worth my last penny is ... pwede dalawa?!? Heheheh! Foundation tsaka lipstick!

The most expensive kikay item that I have or had, but I think is worth every centavo is my set of make-up brushes.

The best place to shop for affordable but quality goods is at:
For Clothes/ Bags/ Shoes: Landmark!
For Gadgets: Greenhills
For Books: BookSale
For Make-Up: Online (eBay)
For Jewelry: Jeweller Friend of mine (Mas mura kasi rather than buying sa stores)

If you cannot afford a brand new Louis Vuitton, you will…
(a) Buy pre-owned ones at lower prices
(b) Save up and wait until you can afford it
(c) Swipe the card anyway and think about the bills later
(d) Buy a similar type from the more affordable brand

Who is the bigger spender in terms of shopping?
(a) Me!
(b) The Hubby!
(c) Same

Have you ever splurged on something that was not really worth it? If yes, what item? Hhmm... iTouch maybe, only because I haven't fully maximized its use and have yet to jailbreak it. Parang nanghihinayang ako coz right now its functioning just like an ordinary iPod.

Is there any kikay item or any gadget that you are currently saving up for, care to share? There's a Gucci bag that I want, but I'm not saving up for it! Hahaha! I'm waiting for the high heavens to give it to me. *wink*wink*

Are you the type who goes to the mall, and can never leave empty-handed? I have to admit that there were times I'm like this. Even if there's nothing I really need, I'd buy just a bottle of nail polish, hahahah, basta may bitbit!

HAPPY THURSDAY! Join us at WIFESPEAKS!

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Cynch @ 7:46 AM

Tuesday, June 02, 2009

CHICKATUESDAY @ WIFESPEAKS: Pangarap na Lotto

Hhmm, ang hirap mangarap kapag sky is the limit! Sabagay ano namang masama sa mangarap, diba? Pero kapag nanalo ako sa lotto, eto ang gagawin ko (at very specific ito ha):

1. Bibilhin ko ang St. James College - Quality Education for Everyone
- Dito kami nag-aral at nagtapos ng Kinder, Grade School at High School ni Hubby. Maraming masasayang memories dito, as in. Sandamakmak. Maganda rin naman ang quality ng education namin at malaki at maluwang ang school grounds (Konektado ba?!?!). Nakakalungkot lang na may mga kumakalat na balita na baka magsarado na raw. Kung may pera lang ako, bibilhin ko yun at magha-hire ng magagaling na teachers at occassionally, papabalikin ang mga alumni para mag-share ng kanilang experiences at learnings sa mga students. Gagawin kong bonggang-bongga ang school na yun... kung paano, hindi ko alam, basta marami naman akong pera so to follow na yung plano! Hehehe! Gusto ko lang na after 50 years, kapag dumadaan ako sa school, andun pa rin sha, at pwede ko ipagmalaki na diyan ako graduate... at sasabihin din ng mga apo ko na "Diyan din kami grumaduate!" Hehehe!

2. Papatayo ako ng Retreat Center sa Tagaytay - Quality Life
- May kasama na ring Spa sa loob niyan for total wellness! O diba. Masarap sa Tagaytay, not too near, not too far. Tsaka si Hubby, gusto yata na dun kami magretire (gusto niya mejo provincial ang dating pero takot pa rin na lumayo sa city ng tuluyan, hehehe!). Kaya yaman din lamang na dun kami titira, eh di papatayo na rin ako ng negosyo dun. At ang magca-cater dun ay Sonya's Garden, kasi sa lahat ng retreat na napuntahan ko, laging hindi masarap ang food. Hehehe!

3. Bibili ako ng yacht - Quality Travel
- Dapat talaga H3 lang yan, eh dahil nangangarap na nga ako, sinagad ko na. Shempre ang daming pwedeng gawin dito sa yacht, for personal and business use. Pwedeng ipa-rent at pwedeng gawing events venue tulad ng romantic proposals, parties, etc. Ito na rin ang gagamitin namin sa pagtravel, o diba?!? At lahat ng parties namin ay dito na rin gagawin. Pero dapat muna siguro matuto ako lumangoy just to be sure, hehehe!

4. Ipro-produce ko ang remaining Twilight Movies: Eclipse at Breaking Dawn - Quality Entertainment
- Pero kelangan may mga scenes na ishu-shoot sa Palawan (dapat dun ang Isle Esme scene), Mindoro, Ilocos, at kung saan-saan pa man na pwede, para ipromote ang Tourism dito sa'tin. Nhux! At shempre magpro-promote din si Edward at si Bella sa ASAP '09, SNN, E! Live, Ruffa and Ai-ai, at may special appearance sila sa Tayong Dalawa at Only You, sayang, tapos na ang Lobo! At gagawin kong series ang Midnight Sun.

5. Dahil sa dami ng negosyo na pinasukan at nabili ko from #1 to #4, madali nang bumili ng mansion, private island, luxury cars, manood ng game ni Manny sa Las Vegas, mag-travel at kung ano-ano pa!

Hhmm hindi yata lotto ang napanalunan ko, mukhang nanalo yata ako sa eleksiyon ah! Hahahaha!

Mangarap mga Misis! Happy Tuesday!

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Cynch @ 1:18 PM

Tuesday, May 19, 2009

BAD VIBES

First of all, let me say thank goodness for blogs. I'm glad I still have this little space in the www where I can rant all I want.

Having said that, let me say that yesterday (Monday) was not really a good day for me. It's one of those "you want to scream and curse but you can't and it's all bottled up inside you" moments. It's one of those days when you have so many things inside your head but you can't say it at that moment and when you replay it on your head, there's still much more you want to say but the moment has passed you by already. It's one of those times when you're suppose to forever hold your silence but in reality there's so many things to say.

It's hard to be in that place and yesterday I was there. I couldn't shake it off, I was up until midnight replaying things in my head. And because this is a public blog, I couldn't go into details as to who or what made my day pretty messed up yesterday. Oh but I can say that at around 8AM or a little before that, I got into an almost car accident, thank God for my quick reflexes that I was able to step on the brakes sooner than later. And yes, it's part of those moments when I wanted to scream at the driver of the other car for being so careless and stupid. But since we were causing traffic already, I had to let it go. (pasalamat sha walang dent!)

Anyways, like what I keep on saying on my YM status: Lumayo ka sa'kin BV! Layas! Kaya naman I see to it that I am surrounded with pleasant people and pleasant thoughts so that the BVs don't get into me so much! Whew!

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Cynch @ 12:52 AM

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